Comments on: Parent of an Addict Asks: When Does the Lying End? http://www.recoveryhelpdesk.com/2010/02/24/parent-of-an-addict-asks-when-does-the-lying-end/ heroin, oxycontin & addiction + methadone, suboxone & recovery Wed, 01 Sep 2010 02:23:45 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Peggy http://www.recoveryhelpdesk.com/2010/02/24/parent-of-an-addict-asks-when-does-the-lying-end/comment-page-1/#comment-131 Peggy Sat, 27 Feb 2010 22:27:56 +0000 http://www.recoveryhelpdesk.com/?p=648#comment-131 Tom - I enjoyed your response to HerBigSad's post about lying and consequences. You mentioned that you don't believe in letting the addict 'hit bottom', that you think family should intervene to facilitate recovery. I'm not sure if you've spent much time on my blog, but I could use some suggestions and guidance as to how/what to do with/for my 30 yo heroin addict daughter to begin this process. Right now, I keep track of where she is through a mutual 'friend' (recovering coke addict); and, Hayley calls or texts occasionally. I delivered a Valentine's bag to her (see my post, "Back to Square One", and the subsequent post. She's currently living with an 'old guy', drugs provided, roof over her head, etc. Thanks for any help you can provide. Peggy Tom – I enjoyed your response to HerBigSad’s post about lying and consequences. You mentioned that you don’t believe in letting the addict ‘hit bottom’, that you think family should intervene to facilitate recovery. I’m not sure if you’ve spent much time on my blog, but I could use some suggestions and guidance as to how/what to do with/for my 30 yo heroin addict daughter to begin this process. Right now, I keep track of where she is through a mutual ‘friend’ (recovering coke addict); and, Hayley calls or texts occasionally. I delivered a Valentine’s bag to her (see my post, “Back to Square One”, and the subsequent post. She’s currently living with an ‘old guy’, drugs provided, roof over her head, etc. Thanks for any help you can provide. Peggy

]]> By: Addiction, Lies, Consequences and Recovery — Recovery Helpdesk http://www.recoveryhelpdesk.com/2010/02/24/parent-of-an-addict-asks-when-does-the-lying-end/comment-page-1/#comment-129 Addiction, Lies, Consequences and Recovery — Recovery Helpdesk Fri, 26 Feb 2010 05:50:52 +0000 http://www.recoveryhelpdesk.com/?p=648#comment-129 [...] The blogger at Her Big Sad posted a response to my recent post Parent of an Addict Asks: When Does the Lying End? [...] [...] The blogger at Her Big Sad posted a response to my recent post Parent of an Addict Asks: When Does the Lying End? [...]

]]> By: HerBigSad http://www.recoveryhelpdesk.com/2010/02/24/parent-of-an-addict-asks-when-does-the-lying-end/comment-page-1/#comment-128 HerBigSad Fri, 26 Feb 2010 03:29:29 +0000 http://www.recoveryhelpdesk.com/?p=648#comment-128 I feel a little differently, and I did some thinking out loud over at my blog.... I'm wondering if my difference in opinion stems from the fact that I'm ten years into this journey of watching my daughter battle heroin addiction. My difference of opinion mainly centers around the idea of consequences. (as my daughter says, "that pesky "C" word!") Anyway, I truly love this community of bloggers and even if we differ, I learn a lot and value what everyone says... :) I feel a little differently, and I did some thinking out loud over at my blog…. I’m wondering if my difference in opinion stems from the fact that I’m ten years into this journey of watching my daughter battle heroin addiction. My difference of opinion mainly centers around the idea of consequences. (as my daughter says, “that pesky “C” word!”)

Anyway, I truly love this community of bloggers and even if we differ, I learn a lot and value what everyone says… :)

]]> By: Barbara http://www.recoveryhelpdesk.com/2010/02/24/parent-of-an-addict-asks-when-does-the-lying-end/comment-page-1/#comment-127 Barbara Thu, 25 Feb 2010 05:17:17 +0000 http://www.recoveryhelpdesk.com/?p=648#comment-127 This was SO GOOD. I love this line "The lying ends, of course, when it is safe to tell the truth." I'm going to link to this on my blog. I think so much of what you share is helpful to us parents. Its like the stages of grief for many of us and in the midst of it, we don't really know from instinct how to deal with all this, and they sure as heck don't include it in the parenting books :( Thank you for sharing your knowledge, its wonderful to have the perspective of a professional. This was SO GOOD. I love this line “The lying ends, of course, when it is safe to tell the truth.”

I’m going to link to this on my blog. I think so much of what you share is helpful to us parents. Its like the stages of grief for many of us and in the midst of it, we don’t really know from instinct how to deal with all this, and they sure as heck don’t include it in the parenting books :(

Thank you for sharing your knowledge, its wonderful to have the perspective of a professional.

]]> By: Monica http://www.recoveryhelpdesk.com/2010/02/24/parent-of-an-addict-asks-when-does-the-lying-end/comment-page-1/#comment-126 Monica Thu, 25 Feb 2010 03:05:12 +0000 http://www.recoveryhelpdesk.com/?p=648#comment-126 I really loved this article. I see my son in this article and myself as well. My son's counselor said the same thing. He said that relapsing in recovery is not uncommon nor is it the end. It is just a part of the process. What is important is to get right back on track and for the addict to recognize how he got there again. I really loved this article. I see my son in this article and myself as well. My son’s counselor said the same thing. He said that relapsing in recovery is not uncommon nor is it the end. It is just a part of the process. What is important is to get right back on track and for the addict to recognize how he got there again.

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